Sister Accountability

There is a growing population of Sisters who are disgruntled with our brothers. Not to say that some of our brothers are at a point where we should have some disdain with them but this movement is more than me too, more than the black man ain’t shit, this is the movement of We Hate Black men, All Black Men.

Add into the factor of the Pretenders (men who portray as women) we are seeing a new area where our voice as the Black Goddess is being drowned out by the social norms that society has presented. Why are so many black women angry?

Black women are not angry, black women are fed up, tired, need to go lay down, need a vacation, need to be healed, loved properly, given their flowers, and most of all black women need to be honored and respected. In every culture the black woman is not respected. This is not to say that some of our sisters need a good old fashioned ass whooping (the kind Grandma use to give), but none the less they too are our sisters they have just been so misguided for so long until they believe this is the way a black woman needs to act.

The so called examples that have been in the forefront have been shady at best, Jada Smith, how many of you applauded her for having what she called an entanglement? Did you know that the said individual was her son's friend and she groomed him until it was safe for her to sleep with him. Or how about the thinly dressed women in music who give us songs like WAP, is this the face of the black woman. Or the women on the reality tv shown are these the face of black women?

So many examples can be presented but the reality is that when one just one black woman cuts the fool we are judged as a whole. No one says that's not the example of black women they only say Black women are shady and messy.

I can't wholesale and indict all of us because I know too many of us are doing the damn thing. We keep moving despite when things stop, we make it happen despite the darkness and we take care of home weather the man helps or not that's what we do as black women. So if we are angry we need to be. Who lets us sleep in? who lets us take a break? who lets us voice our opinion and not see it as aggression? Those are some of the things black women need.

But my beautiful Sistars you need to grasp that the world is not revolved around you, there are lots of players in this world and everything cannot go your way. I often tell people you make time for what is important, I hear so many women talk about their jobs, careers, life outside the home, are these the things you need to survive? If you are so wrapped up in your professional life something has to go lacking and often times the home and our children are the sacrifice because you know they told us children are resilient. Children need Momma too and Momma need to nurture these babies I really feel that the ever growing competition between mothers and daughters will slow down if momma recognizes her place in the home and stop placing so much responsibility on our daughters who are not ready. they just want to grow form our love and knowledge.

I can admit I fell into some of the same traps as everyone else, I bought into the "strong black woman" role. Ms. Do It All, these titles give us the superwoman effect, we love when we hear them but in the still of the night, when we should be resting but our brain is still on GO, we realize that we are not all that to everyone and the one person who needs to be recognize is YOU. Loving on yourself. Allowing yourself Grace to not have it all done but another day means another chance. Forgiving yourself for not making the 6 figures the world tells us we need to make, buying all the material things the world says we need to have, working 60-100 hours a week cause we want that pat on the back that we grinding. We need to just BREATHE.

Yes SIS BREATHE. Nothing is set in stone, nothing is promised. I told you all before I know I got some people who are looking at me like I have lost my mind, I left that job to do what sets my soul on fire, I stopped being what the world said I had to be, I stopped giving in to the typical stereotypes of black women and began to honor what I always had, I couldn't be happier. I'm not here to tell anyone don't get it grab all that you can I'm only here to remind you that while your being the shining star to everyone else your gonna wake up one day and realize that you placed your happiness on hold to feed into the narrative the world gave you. I can tell you its not real in fact its unhealthy. Stop allowing what's trending to drive you, be true to yourself. You would be surprised how much of life's weight you will shed and how free you will become.

I invite you to Inspire to Aspire