Dishing The Tea

The tea is what many of us like to partake in, learning information about someone that we didn’t know tends to get the best audiences. As we look at social media the tea is dished and based on how juicy this tea is the commentary will gain more likes and views, after all that is what is most revered in our community the attention we gain from others that gives us the most lilies and views.

It has been a stereotype that women have been the ones who gossip the most which is why we would see so many women giving commentary or “dishing the tea”. Lately, the tend of women has surpassed and now there is a new trend. Our men have taken on the microphone and its not for rapping. The latest trend on social media platforms for our men is “dishing the tea”.

Now there is an art to this type of commentary, one needs to engage their audience, one needs to have information that is trendy and current, one will need to have a smoking gun, but for men they tend to go one step further. They dish tea so much until we all start to feel that they have no life, it is their entire existence to gossip about another individual.

Male tea-dishers tend to stick to topics that resonate with them, for example they will only speak about other men. By no means are we saying one cannot have an opinion. It becomes something much more when you spend hours discussing someone else and at a daily rate. The time and effort it takes to edit videos, post videos, make videos I am quite sure that time can be spent doing what they claim they are, being real men”.

How can you have a family and give advice on parenting when you have spent 3-5 hours discussing how men are bad parents? How can you be in a relationship and give relationship advice when you spend 3-5 hours discussing the shortcomings of someone else? How can you talk about what the community is missing when you are spending 3-5 hours discussing the community you are not participating in? How can you call yourself a real anything when you are committed to surnames and avatars? There is no real way any man can provide any advice or support when you only speak through a box.

This trend has become so common until the women are now engaged in battle with the men on who is going to dish the tea the best. Who is going to entertain the audience the most, who is gonna get the most likes and views and who will win the war of words.

Listen, there is nothing attractive about a man whose profession is “tea disher”. What can you offer me because oftentimes the facts are not part of the tea it's just flavor that is presented and the one who has the best flavor usually is the one who says they have made a career out of gossiping.

This type of gossip comes at an expense to our community and ultimately will become a liability to the male tea disher. The internet is not for entertainment or information anymore, it is becoming much more sinister. Factor in doxxing and now jobs are being called, child protection is being called, city, state, and government again agencies are being called, in some cases the police and FBI. What type of tea can be dished that warrants the destruction of another person's life.

We have heard all the excuses. My personal favorite is “I was attacked.” One can’t be attacked when you are participating in destroying someone else’s life yet you cry foul when it's your turn. Professional male tea-dishers tend to boast about their intellect when we all know the only individuals who find you interesting are on the other side of the box. Professional male tea-dishers tend to be much more aggressive over the internet but when faced with real time (life) they blame or even lie and say “I didn’t do that”.

A Hip Hop music individual was so fed up with a professional tea disher until she sued and won. Imagine that, winning a case over the lies and slander that they call content. There is nothing about what you dish that is content, it is gossip and why hide behind your avatar name, call yourself what you are a professional male tea disher. I mean it has a catchy ring to it, my guess is you're still trying to hold on to some level of manhood which is why you do not want anyone to know who you really are and what you really do or don’t do.

Just know this, there is more to being a man than dishing the tea. In fact, how about drinking some of that tea just make sure it’s herbal. Spend that time fostering yourself to be a mentor to a youngin, one who is going to look up to you. A role model that is not making excuses and using someone else’s life to project your pain.

I’d like to see our men be men and not tea-dishers, you can’t be critical of Sisters when you are partaking in gossip for profit and after all this money your trying to make as a professional tea-disher comes at a cost to someone else.

Think about this, it may be fun, engaging, and even profitable to be a male tea-disher but what have you done to uplift the community, what legacy will you leave for the next generation, what work will speak for you. The next wave is coming and soon tea-dishers will be obsolete and when they stop listening your will have to face you in a mirror that shows the pain you inflicted on others that has now become your reality.

We all know misery loves company, I hope your being mindful of the attention you seek.

Be Blessed Beloved

Barika